Women in the First Wives Club
Meet: Trina Rodgers
Husband: Sean Rodgers
Married: 11 years
We are the Rodgers! I am Trina and my beloved husband of nearly 11 years is Sean Rodgers. We reside in sunny California on the outskirts of Los Angeles and have a blended family with three adult children.
Although we were both unaware at the time, our lifelong journey began in October 2009 after I posted a request for blanket donations on Facebook. Sean was a friend of a friend and he responded. Ironically, I did not know him personally although we grew up in the same area and had friends in common. A few weeks after Sean responded, we met face-to-face for the first time in the parking lot of a bowling alley near my house where he regularly bowled. He placed the blankets in the trunk of my car and before departing asked me if I knew how to bowl. I, of course, gave him an affirmative answer and that’s how it all began. Our friendship ensued and we began officially dating around six months later. In October 2010, we started a five-month marriage preparation class at my church where he frequently visited. After successfully completing the class, we knew our plan was to get married at some point so we began scouting a lot of different idea wedding locations. We both love the water so we decided to get married on a yacht. We actually secured the date before he even proposed! Moreso because there were only two available dates left on the yacht we preferred. Sean proposed to me on June 12, 2011, during church service in front of the entire congregation. Everyone went bananas, running around and jumping with excitement. Five months later we were married on the weekend following Thanksgiving. Our relationship was birthed through our willingness to help and serve others, and we continue to do so in ministry together as a married couple.
Gravitating towards oneness is a process and doesn’t happen overnight. When you say “for better or for worse” on your wedding day, you really are not anticipating the latter, but scripture clearly tells us that we do not know what tomorrow may bring. We have definitely had our share of joy and pain, and the depth of our marriage is based off of our experiences together. Oneness is a perpetual evolution, but we are committed to growing together as the seasons change.
My Wife Wisdom is: 1) Always pray first and allow God the opportunity to intercede. Many mountain-top moments are actually molehills after you pray. Also, pray together and for each other daily. The power of prayer is your absolute best defense! 2) Learn to communicate effectively. You need to speak the language that your husband can hear and receive. Be vulnerable and honest. Communication at the right time and in the right manner/tone will strengthen you and your marriage. 3) Surround yourself with healthy and successfully married couples. Community is necessary and has the propensity to fortify your marriage. 4) Be intentional about your marriage. Couples grow apart by choice. Make consistent choices that are in the best interest of your marriage.
The First Wives Club is a necessary community and truly a gem. Denise shares boatloads of helpful insight while reminding us that we are in this together. The interviews, spotlights, suggestions, relatable experiences, etc. are resources that we can tap into at any given time. In my opinion, you cannot do marriage alone so for the wives who may not have the support they desire, this community is a Godsend.